STUDY - Technical - New Dacian's Medicine
The
Language of the Subconscious (10).
Translation Draft
Let's go on with yesterday's ideas, trying to see, first, how we can deflect our feelings and emotions (so that, only after this "effort", we really get to work). In addition, the deviation of feelings is an "emergency" intervention needed to buy time for something else. But even in the end it will come to the need to solve the source of "emission" (need, necessity, desire) of feelings, if we want peace, peace, etc. true.
I will continue the "example" related to the machine of our body (the one initiated in yesterday's post). So a lack attracts the appearance of a signal and the requirement to act in the direction indicated by that signal. For example, if the fuel light lights up, we'll need to power up (which any driver who doesn't want to do "stupid feather" does). The same will be done with emotions/feelings that signal us and then "order" us to do something. But most of the time, our reaction cannot bring immediate resolution and, therefore, there will be the possibility or desire to do something that, at least for now, will make us feel better, even if it is not directly related to the need that generated the initial perceived signal.
To better understand, let's imagine the next situation. The fuel light lights up, and so we immediately know that something is wrong, that we need to refuel. In this case, the unpleasant feeling is the concern. The signal of the indicator indicator of the fuel level is not a bad thing. It's just a signal that tells us we have to feed, that's all. But if we have no idea what this light bulb means, this signal? We will experience the stress that arises from the perception of indicator light, even without having any idea what it represents.
Lighting a light bulb on board is definitely something. We can ignore this signal by turning on the radio (for example) or I'll stop to take a break (even to ask what's with that dashboard light), or eat an ice cream. And, sure enough, we'll feel better. But we'll be able to do something in the direction indicated by the signal?!? Certainly, No! I made it so that we felt better because of another activity, temporarily distracting myself from the real, flagged problem. That's all. But when I finish the wonderful ice cream, I'll get back to the light bulb that shines on the board.
This would be the problem of distractions and any other types of "fun". They are only useful to buy time to address the main problem. That's all... Even if we feel better, if we lower the stress level at the moment. And if another time we 'link' to the ice cream consumption flight indicator, it won't be long before we become emotionally dependent on ice cream, every time the board signals a lack of fuel. This may not sound so bad, but think of all sorts of addictions that can be born throughout our lives that, instead of signaling us, will divert us from the normal path to the ice cream kiosk or confectionery!
That's how emotional addiction is born. It is a behavioral pattern of distraction that manifests itself to diminish the painful emotional experience, at the expense of solving the requirement, need or desire for which it was born. And, such addictions are more numerous than you might imagine, being related to certain substances (food, tobacco, alcohol, etc.), certain behaviors/habits (watching TV programs, shopping, hobbies, pornography, etc.) and others.
But any kind of such addiction is not good for you, for those around you, for society and, why not, for mankind.
Let's go back to our example! But what if under the fuel indicator there was the possibility of identifying the need, the signal that is present there, by the simple inscription "Fuel" (for example). As soon as the signal makes its presence will cause us (most of us) to make some conditionings so that we can reach the next power station. Behold, what would be the benefit of the possibility to identify the need that is signalled by emotion/feeling. Why did we place the parenthesis "on most of us"?!?
Obviously, because many of us will prefer to devote time to entertainment. The road to food often requires investment of time in particular, but also other resources. It's all up to each of us. But the more we ignore the signal, the closer we get to the moment when the machine will stop and become useless or cause us to get the canister to the power station. So, as a kind of conclusion, taking action to meet a need not only eliminates the cause of a problem but also avoids all collateral distraction effects and ensures the smooth functioning of the assembly.
Let us look at one of the main dependencies that arise from inaction and, by implication, disinterest in the signals transmitted and the act of distraction, the birth of addictions: emotional dependence on food. This consists in distracting from unpleasant feelings through the pleasure produced by the act of eating. It contributes significantly to obesity with all its "attracted" health risks (not to mention the problems that will arise from the lack of elimination of the actual problem, the one that triggered the emotional/sentimental stimuli that led us to "run away" and give birth to that addiction). It occurs when a person eats in the form of a response to feelings of boredom, fear, frustration or depression, more intensely than in response to the true hunger and needs born of it.
People who have problems controlling their weight almost always eat before the onset of the hunger experience, the need to eat what is born of organic necessity. In fact, they don't really get to have the real feeling of hunger anymore, forgetting the real feeling because they no longer make the difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger. But let's also move on to "palpable" examples, presenting some suggestions to help achieve the difference!
First of all, physical hunger is not pretentious. They don't care about balanced meals or fast food meals, they equally satisfying physical hunger. True physical hunger is a psychological discomfort that quickly disappears after ingesting a sufficient amount of food (it is about the feeling of satiety given by the full stomach, or full "enough"). This sensation will stop almost immediately, but briefly, and at the simple ingestion of a quantity of water. So the feeling of hunger reaches, at some point, a certain amount of food and liquids to "extinguish".
But emotional hunger doesn't "react" like that. You keep crunching something, you keep changing food, a little bit of each, often finding "unconscious" food preferences for each kind of emotion/feeling (sweet foods are characteristic of problems with people close to you, fruits are related to physical benefits in "disagreement" with claims, chocolate is associated with problems of "love" or similar feelings, etc., can not give more examples because they are particularly specific to each individual). But the result is quite different, being just a kind of pattern of misinterpretation of emotions/feelings. Let's move on!
Secondly, many people are surprised that physical hunger gives rise to direct sensations in a certain area of the body. Most "customers" of slimming cures indicate the sensations of hunger to be placed somewhere in the lower abdomen, around the navel. They are truly surprised to find out the true location of the physical feeling of hunger as being localized in the stomach and not in the small intestine or in the lower abdomen (next to the belly itself). This localization of hunger localized in the belly is nothing but an emotional hunger. So the simple difference in placement can make us wonder "Am I hungry?" or "How do I really feel? Am I tired, bored, lonely or frustrated (or other feeling)?" This way we can come to identify the feeling and act in a satisfactory way.
All of the above constitutes a kind of ill-translated motivation by associating with another kind of feelings of pleasure, fullness, etc.
And it's all so simple. Specialists have identified only three distinct types of feelings, called primary feelings, related to perceptions of discomfort, and they become more and more powerful as the needs that signal them are not met. I repeat, they are similar to the lights on board a car (as i have shown above), signaling a certain requirement.
For example, loneliness is one of the most important feelings of "negative" meaning, a "painful" feeling associated with the unsatisfaction of the human need for companionship and association. If this feeling is not eliminated, loneliness becomes more and more acute. Attention, it's not just about loneliness literally. We can feel alone even in the company of other people who ignore us or with whom we do not identify (for example). Another feature of loneliness is that of a hard-to-imagine requirement to find compensation items. But of course they won't work because these compensation elements only meet the need, at most, in the short term and give rise to dependencies (which I mentioned above).
A first step in understanding the futility of the compensation elements (actually, identifying addictions) is to be able to ask questions like: "How much do I have to eat until I have a sense of friendship fulfilled?" or "How much do I have to drink to stop feeling alone?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone around me?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or " much I have to watch TV (or go to the cinema, theater, etc.) to stop feeling lonely?" or "How long do I have to blame others until I feel friends?". Of course these are just examples but it is impossible not to notice their futility, their lack of meaning, their logic.
That's because these questions reveal illogical associations between needs/requirements and distractions.
Unfortunately, many people are trapped in a real trap (a circular movement, a constant return to the need that generates the feeling by just not solving the cause that produces it) of distractions, having no choice but to feel sick. To make it worse, frustration will come in very quickly. The distraction element not resolving the requirement that leads to the appearance of feeling will attract a return of it, often more pronounced, which is why frustration (born from the impossibility of "removing" the feeling) has no obstacle to manifesting itself. Thus, frustration is a new feeling perceived to be negative, which adds to the initial feeling of loneliness (according to the given example, but it is associated with any feeling with the same meaning, negative, amplifying it). You'll never be frustrated until you experience a primal feeling.
In conclusion, if you are not successful in meeting a need, requirement or desire associated with a primary feeling, you will find an increase in the amplitude of pain by summing up with the secondary feeling of frustration. So initially he feels lonely (repeat, even if you are in many relationships but the feeling of loneliness exists – something like your presence in a stadium in the stands of the opposing team). After a period of unsuccessful attempts to satisfy the need for relationship, friendship, you will move on to the next step when you will feel lonely and frustrated. I hope you get the idea!
Therefore, frustration can only be felt in conjunction with other feelings (except tertiary feelings such as depression – which we will talk about in future posts). Examples of such conjunctures are: lonely and frustrated, sad and frustrated, angry and frustrated, bored and frustrated, worried and frustrated... As a kind of good news, it has been proven that efforts to satisfy primary feelings will automatically eliminate frustration, but in the event of failure, the feeling of frustration will continuously increase even if the primary feeling remains at the same level. Basically, frustration is the feeling that fuels the continuous increase in perceived pain until depression is "touched."
So, very important to remember, you have to act directly on the case. Then, after solving it, if it returns it will not be stronger than before because now we know how to respond to it and we will no longer make the mistake of resorting to distractions.
But that's enough for today! We're addressing depression tomorrow, and what's next...
Let's go on with yesterday's ideas, trying to see, first, how we can deflect our feelings and emotions (so that, only after this "effort", we really get to work). In addition, the deviation of feelings is an "emergency" intervention needed to buy time for something else. But even in the end it will come to the need to solve the source of "emission" (need, necessity, desire) of feelings, if we want peace, peace, etc. true.
I will continue the "example" related to the machine of our body (the one initiated in yesterday's post). So a lack attracts the appearance of a signal and the requirement to act in the direction indicated by that signal. For example, if the fuel light lights up, we'll need to power up (which any driver who doesn't want to do "stupid feather" does). The same will be done with emotions/feelings that signal us and then "order" us to do something. But most of the time, our reaction cannot bring immediate resolution and, therefore, there will be the possibility or desire to do something that, at least for now, will make us feel better, even if it is not directly related to the need that generated the initial perceived signal.
To better understand, let's imagine the next situation. The fuel light lights up, and so we immediately know that something is wrong, that we need to refuel. In this case, the unpleasant feeling is the concern. The signal of the indicator indicator of the fuel level is not a bad thing. It's just a signal that tells us we have to feed, that's all. But if we have no idea what this light bulb means, this signal? We will experience the stress that arises from the perception of indicator light, even without having any idea what it represents.
Lighting a light bulb on board is definitely something. We can ignore this signal by turning on the radio (for example) or I'll stop to take a break (even to ask what's with that dashboard light), or eat an ice cream. And, sure enough, we'll feel better. But we'll be able to do something in the direction indicated by the signal?!? Certainly, No! I made it so that we felt better because of another activity, temporarily distracting myself from the real, flagged problem. That's all. But when I finish the wonderful ice cream, I'll get back to the light bulb that shines on the board.
This would be the problem of distractions and any other types of "fun". They are only useful to buy time to address the main problem. That's all... Even if we feel better, if we lower the stress level at the moment. And if another time we 'link' to the ice cream consumption flight indicator, it won't be long before we become emotionally dependent on ice cream, every time the board signals a lack of fuel. This may not sound so bad, but think of all sorts of addictions that can be born throughout our lives that, instead of signaling us, will divert us from the normal path to the ice cream kiosk or confectionery!
That's how emotional addiction is born. It is a behavioral pattern of distraction that manifests itself to diminish the painful emotional experience, at the expense of solving the requirement, need or desire for which it was born. And, such addictions are more numerous than you might imagine, being related to certain substances (food, tobacco, alcohol, etc.), certain behaviors/habits (watching TV programs, shopping, hobbies, pornography, etc.) and others.
But any kind of such addiction is not good for you, for those around you, for society and, why not, for mankind.
Let's go back to our example! But what if under the fuel indicator there was the possibility of identifying the need, the signal that is present there, by the simple inscription "Fuel" (for example). As soon as the signal makes its presence will cause us (most of us) to make some conditionings so that we can reach the next power station. Behold, what would be the benefit of the possibility to identify the need that is signalled by emotion/feeling. Why did we place the parenthesis "on most of us"?!?
Obviously, because many of us will prefer to devote time to entertainment. The road to food often requires investment of time in particular, but also other resources. It's all up to each of us. But the more we ignore the signal, the closer we get to the moment when the machine will stop and become useless or cause us to get the canister to the power station. So, as a kind of conclusion, taking action to meet a need not only eliminates the cause of a problem but also avoids all collateral distraction effects and ensures the smooth functioning of the assembly.
Let us look at one of the main dependencies that arise from inaction and, by implication, disinterest in the signals transmitted and the act of distraction, the birth of addictions: emotional dependence on food. This consists in distracting from unpleasant feelings through the pleasure produced by the act of eating. It contributes significantly to obesity with all its "attracted" health risks (not to mention the problems that will arise from the lack of elimination of the actual problem, the one that triggered the emotional/sentimental stimuli that led us to "run away" and give birth to that addiction). It occurs when a person eats in the form of a response to feelings of boredom, fear, frustration or depression, more intensely than in response to the true hunger and needs born of it.
People who have problems controlling their weight almost always eat before the onset of the hunger experience, the need to eat what is born of organic necessity. In fact, they don't really get to have the real feeling of hunger anymore, forgetting the real feeling because they no longer make the difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger. But let's also move on to "palpable" examples, presenting some suggestions to help achieve the difference!
First of all, physical hunger is not pretentious. They don't care about balanced meals or fast food meals, they equally satisfying physical hunger. True physical hunger is a psychological discomfort that quickly disappears after ingesting a sufficient amount of food (it is about the feeling of satiety given by the full stomach, or full "enough"). This sensation will stop almost immediately, but briefly, and at the simple ingestion of a quantity of water. So the feeling of hunger reaches, at some point, a certain amount of food and liquids to "extinguish".
But emotional hunger doesn't "react" like that. You keep crunching something, you keep changing food, a little bit of each, often finding "unconscious" food preferences for each kind of emotion/feeling (sweet foods are characteristic of problems with people close to you, fruits are related to physical benefits in "disagreement" with claims, chocolate is associated with problems of "love" or similar feelings, etc., can not give more examples because they are particularly specific to each individual). But the result is quite different, being just a kind of pattern of misinterpretation of emotions/feelings. Let's move on!
Secondly, many people are surprised that physical hunger gives rise to direct sensations in a certain area of the body. Most "customers" of slimming cures indicate the sensations of hunger to be placed somewhere in the lower abdomen, around the navel. They are truly surprised to find out the true location of the physical feeling of hunger as being localized in the stomach and not in the small intestine or in the lower abdomen (next to the belly itself). This localization of hunger localized in the belly is nothing but an emotional hunger. So the simple difference in placement can make us wonder "Am I hungry?" or "How do I really feel? Am I tired, bored, lonely or frustrated (or other feeling)?" This way we can come to identify the feeling and act in a satisfactory way.
All of the above constitutes a kind of ill-translated motivation by associating with another kind of feelings of pleasure, fullness, etc.
And it's all so simple. Specialists have identified only three distinct types of feelings, called primary feelings, related to perceptions of discomfort, and they become more and more powerful as the needs that signal them are not met. I repeat, they are similar to the lights on board a car (as i have shown above), signaling a certain requirement.
For example, loneliness is one of the most important feelings of "negative" meaning, a "painful" feeling associated with the unsatisfaction of the human need for companionship and association. If this feeling is not eliminated, loneliness becomes more and more acute. Attention, it's not just about loneliness literally. We can feel alone even in the company of other people who ignore us or with whom we do not identify (for example). Another feature of loneliness is that of a hard-to-imagine requirement to find compensation items. But of course they won't work because these compensation elements only meet the need, at most, in the short term and give rise to dependencies (which I mentioned above).
A first step in understanding the futility of the compensation elements (actually, identifying addictions) is to be able to ask questions like: "How much do I have to eat until I have a sense of friendship fulfilled?" or "How much do I have to drink to stop feeling alone?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone around me?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or "How much shopping do I have to do to have someone by my side?" or "How much do I have to work until I feel like I have a boyfriend?" or " much I have to watch TV (or go to the cinema, theater, etc.) to stop feeling lonely?" or "How long do I have to blame others until I feel friends?". Of course these are just examples but it is impossible not to notice their futility, their lack of meaning, their logic.
That's because these questions reveal illogical associations between needs/requirements and distractions.
Unfortunately, many people are trapped in a real trap (a circular movement, a constant return to the need that generates the feeling by just not solving the cause that produces it) of distractions, having no choice but to feel sick. To make it worse, frustration will come in very quickly. The distraction element not resolving the requirement that leads to the appearance of feeling will attract a return of it, often more pronounced, which is why frustration (born from the impossibility of "removing" the feeling) has no obstacle to manifesting itself. Thus, frustration is a new feeling perceived to be negative, which adds to the initial feeling of loneliness (according to the given example, but it is associated with any feeling with the same meaning, negative, amplifying it). You'll never be frustrated until you experience a primal feeling.
In conclusion, if you are not successful in meeting a need, requirement or desire associated with a primary feeling, you will find an increase in the amplitude of pain by summing up with the secondary feeling of frustration. So initially he feels lonely (repeat, even if you are in many relationships but the feeling of loneliness exists – something like your presence in a stadium in the stands of the opposing team). After a period of unsuccessful attempts to satisfy the need for relationship, friendship, you will move on to the next step when you will feel lonely and frustrated. I hope you get the idea!
Therefore, frustration can only be felt in conjunction with other feelings (except tertiary feelings such as depression – which we will talk about in future posts). Examples of such conjunctures are: lonely and frustrated, sad and frustrated, angry and frustrated, bored and frustrated, worried and frustrated... As a kind of good news, it has been proven that efforts to satisfy primary feelings will automatically eliminate frustration, but in the event of failure, the feeling of frustration will continuously increase even if the primary feeling remains at the same level. Basically, frustration is the feeling that fuels the continuous increase in perceived pain until depression is "touched."
So, very important to remember, you have to act directly on the case. Then, after solving it, if it returns it will not be stronger than before because now we know how to respond to it and we will no longer make the mistake of resorting to distractions.
But that's enough for today! We're addressing depression tomorrow, and what's next...
Love,
Gratitude and Understanding (Namaste)!!!
Dorin, Merticaru