STUDY - Technical - New Dacian's Medicine
The
Language of the Conscious (7).
Translation Draft
Let's move on with what we discussed yesterday!
Pacing is a technique by which bridges can be built between hearts, it is the process by which one man can harmonize with another emotionally, can resonate with him (emotional resonance) and try to vibrate and feel with him. In esoteric parlance, this process is described with the phrase" to open your heart." A bridge between hearts is quite solid, a successful pacing is technically referred to as a "report". For a therapist or a teacher, it is absolutely necessary to create and maintain such a relationship with the client.
That is because, only through this sense of trust, of protection, of being guided safely and of being respected, can total healing and learning be achieved. If a therapist has managed to build the relationship status with the client and he accepts this way of being led to solving his problems, considering it as safe, we will talk about the situation called "leading" or "direction"/ management. Any therapeutic or pedagogical process, whatever its nature, always leads to pacing, reporting and leading. Without this triumvirate, even the best development and therapy techniques, however well they are learned, cannot become functional. With the help of these three elements everything is possible, even if the techniques used are used imperfectly.
First let's see how pacing doesn't work. Before we start doing exercises together, through which you will learn to build bridges between hearts properly, we need to look more closely at different ways of behavior. Although when viewed superficially, these modes of action seem to make it easier to achieve the state of empathy with others in practice, and if applied without a thorough knowledge and without an adequate inner state it prevents the emergence of an authentic resonance between people.
"Details" that allow the "achieving" of the most authentic resonance are represented by: a. harmonization of the rhythm of breathing, b. adoption of a similar body position, c. adaptation to the way the other communicates through the attention paid to the choice of words, the rhythm of speech, the speed of verbal communication, modulation and height of sounds, d. harmonization of body language with that of the conversation partner, e. expressing similar opinions when it comes to topics , f. choosing clothing, perfume, dishes and drinks according to each other's supposed preferences, g. adopting other equalizing attitudes and h. suggestions regarding properties, schooling, personal abilities.
But the chance of going over some kind of individual patient filter is minimal, at best, all these measures do nothing but irritate him if you're not what you pretend to be. At the same time. They require your attention quite a lot because you are always obliged to control the position of your mask so that your actual behavior does not surface and make the scam visible. It's pretty tiring, isn't it? At the same time, things can be done differently, much simpler, more honest, more pleasant.
All the adaptations described above from a. to d. are automatically made by the subconscious if you really like the other, respect him and are able to feel the same way as him. If your heart is open to each other, it's pointless if you take into account the points from e. to g. to achieve the state of pacing and reporting. Point h. is related to the ability of anyone acting in a particular honest, humane and affective situation, having a kind of natural authority.
But, importantly, pacing (building bridges between hearts) can be learned. This capacity must be enjoyed by therapists, good sellers, managers and seminar managers. Without pacing and reporting, no partnership relationship, friendship and relationship between family members can work. To a certain extent each of us develops this capacity when it grows and when it adapts to its social environment. Most of us learn unconsciously by becoming true masters without making the slightest effort, but many of us need to learn, improve a kind of natural dowry that obviously depends on our qualities of honesty, fairness and more. It is nice and beneficial to maintain cordial relations with other people, separations from certain people will be replaced by strong relationships with others, the daily life becomes sunnier and the blows of destiny that can still touch you, can be overcome more easily. But let's get to work and get acquainted with some of these techniques, of bridges between hearts!
Deck 1 – Self-acceptance.
In the following I will describe a kind of first exercise in the series of many to come. Remember, it is an informative example that requires a little more knowledge to be applied correctly, usefully. So, I advise you now to be aware of him and wait until I describe the techniques at the appropriate time. But let's keep going! For this exercise we have to reserve some time (most authors specify that it would be about half an hour, but it all depends on each of us). You start to relax while, for example, you follow your heart rate for a while. After that, ask your subconscious to draw up a symbol that represents everything you are. Be prepared to accept it, no matter when it happens.
Write your name on an imaginary label that you'll put under the symbol. Now ask your subconscious to apply black spots or another marking to this symbol that stands out and represents the areas of your existence that you have not learned to love. Don't fight everything that's going on. Don't worry if there's too many black spots. First, the subconscious demonstrates to you the confidence it has in you, and secondly, through this exercise, you will allow love to impregnate your aspects, which you have not been able to accept until now. Now he breathes quietly and constantly. At the same time, imagine how, with the air, you draw a new vital energy into the heart area, until you feel saturated with a living, vibrant and warm force.
Ask your subconscious to continue to allow the reception of this force through breathing until you explicitly tell it to stop. Go back mentally to the past, to a time when you felt an overwhelming affective state. Translate with all your senses at the most intense moment of this experience. Extend it temporally so you can enjoy it for a longer time and feel your mood change and your heart open. Now it conveys from the heart a bundle of rays (colored in pink, green and bright white) that symbolize your willingness to love, towards the symbol that represents you.
If you feel fear, pain, anger or any other feeling, say it out loud. "I feel (call the feeling) and I want to respect and love every day that passes this part of my being." Complete the exercise by thanking the subconscious for its help and trust and asking it to work with you on the next occasion, when you need it. Keep breathing abdominally until you feel good and totally relaxed. Take a few more deep breaths, move gently, open your eyes and resume contact with the outside world and touch the things around you. Get up slowly.
Caution, there is some kind of clarification to the exercise described above. It is possible that during the first executions of this exercise, you will feel sick and that feelings are born in you that will make you vulnerable. First, these are the accompanying symptoms of the restructuring caused by this exercise. Later, after the restructuring process is complete, you will be much stronger and more stable and feel better overall. If you have a weak heart, do this exercise only as long as you feel totally good. At the slightest occurrence of any form of discomfort immediately interrupt this step and move on to the next.
If disharmony does not occur after the next breaths, complete the exercise by intensely massaging your little fingers and breathing using the lower abdomen area just below the navel level. Treat your heart to a natural healer (allopathic doctors will destabilize you more with medication because they will chemically compensate for energy deprivation) in which you fully trust until it stabilizes sufficiently to support the intensive exercise.
Unless there are black spots or other obvious markings for areas you don't like, that doesn't mean you totally love your entire being. It is better to assume that, in this way, the subconscious conveys to you how much it is afraid to show you something of it (in addition to the possible situation in which you have not really relaxed). In this case, repeat the exercise in the manner described above, but envelop the entire symbol in the rays of the energy of love. Repeat this exercise daily until you get to mastery (actually, automatism) in achieving it. The more often you do it, the better you will learn to accept yourself, to love yourself, and this inner force will irradiate to an increasing extent. Gradually you will acquire a capacity that you will be able to use with great ease and that will make it very easy for you to pacing with others.
Bridge 2 – Recognize yourself in another.
Focus your attention on your partner and compare his views, his body language and the way he presents himself in relation to yours. Look at the similarities. Through this exercise of perception, with time, will awaken and sympathy for the other. Attention! If the person next door shows you a part of it, which is identical to a part of your personality, which you reject, by doing this exercise you can get scared or become more aggressive. He who wants to love others must initially learn to accept and love himself.
Bridge 3 – Perceiving the good parts of the other.
This exercise is very simple and will give you more choice in structuring relationships. Its effect is based on the finding that a man can distribute his attention within certain limits and that feelings, once provoked, are no longer revocable, but must be experienced immediately or with the passage of time. So you can direct your attention but not your feelings. Use this law, stopping at another, only as long as you need to observe, consciously and clearly, the essential traits that you like about each other. Stay focused on your personality traits that arouse your sympathy, admiration, or other positive resonance, as long as possible, without harming your interests.
And one more thing before we move on. Even if the exercise described above is a first step towards the use of subconscious "power", do not imagine that it is the magic solution. Here appear numerous peculiarities that you will possibly go through, with the passage of time and real access to information. Both information presented by me (by processing my efforts of understanding and those who have gone through and accepted them) and information about you and those around you and your life.
For example, for starters, it is not good to extend your efforts/activity further away from you. It is only after you have reached a certain balance (which I will describe or will feel) that you can move on to the next person. How to identify useful people?!? Custom anchor cards will guide you to who you need to direct your energy to. Don't go any further by approaching more than one person! And, step by step, without forgetting about yourself, go on person by person until you exhaust the lists of custom anchors. But I'm not going to risk giving you advice now... You'll see!
There's still something to talk about active and passive pacing. In principle, two types of pacing are distinguished: the passive one that I described above and is most appropriate for one's own person and isolated person and the active one, which is useful in establishing relationships with groups. This active pacing is useful for those who have to deal with groups such as leaders, actors, teachers, on the occasion of various lectures, seminars or on the occasion of various occasions when many people are present such as birthdays, group parties, etc.
For a start, if possible, at the beginning of the formation of a group or after each longer break, establish a short ritual that has become known as the "energy circle". Participants hold hands, close their eyes and, for a short time, get deeply innerized. The open and affectionate relationship between them will obviously be relieved. If you can't do this, we'll move on and we'll deal with more steps.
Step 1: Initially clarify what feelings, expectations and anxieties may occur in those in the audience towards the frame, theme and your own person.
Step 2: Inform the public about your feelings, expectations and anxieties. You can even, from time to time, make fun of yourself and all these emotions inherent in human nature. If you have often completed the waiting exercises described above you will be able to laugh with all your heart. But if you're not capable of that, don't! This openness is for others an indication that, more than likely, you will accept them with their weaknesses and mistakes. If someone manifests their weaknesses, don't scold them for that reason, but show them that you accept and respect them as a man. This does not mean that you have to accept anything, but that, in the event of a possible controversy, you must greet your partner with respect and willingness to accept the existence of differences.
Step 3: Tell stories and weave them with statements from which it can be inferred that you understand and respect people's expectations, feelings and anxieties, even if your views that you should also express openly are others. It emphasizes common goals and never laughs at anyone, but only at general human behavior. If one of the interlocutors, consciously or unconsciously, reveals the weaknesses of his personality, do not let this situation get lost without a reframing, the aim being that he emphasizes the value of this "mistake" in certain contexts of experience, which many of the members of the group consider "important", or the value of this behavior for the objectives of the group. Don't invent anything, but use reframing only in the context of the real understanding of the meaning and value you want to use as a complementary point of view.
Step 4: Do not allow one of the members to be attacked personally within the group. Instead of these confrontations, it draws the participants' attention, with great tact, to the responsibility we have with regard to our own feelings (separation of positive and negative aspects, objective and subjective ones, or the professional plan from the relational one) by explaining them and helping them to accept each other's feelings, without having to be rationally justified.
Step 5: Thank the group from the heart for being present and for being able to work with them. If this is not yet possible, continue to enhance your ability to understand professionally and to accept the emotional importance of your students.
In the end of today's post I must point out that building and maintaining bridges between hearts is NOT accepting anything. The bridges between hearts are based on reciprocity, on something that cannot override free will to which is added true emotional resonance. If you make the effort to empathize with another and it hits you, literally or figuratively, at a very painful point, you must be able to control yourself and explain to him, without a doubt, that the next action of this kind will have consequences for him.
If you love your own person, you protect yourself from injury and neglect of your demands. Report means emotional resonance, not conflict, not giving up on yourself. Pacing takes place through mutual feelings, but not on the condition that self-esteem is dislocated. Pacing and reporting must eliminate hatred, intolerance, prejudice, envy, jealousy, fear and revenge. But that doesn't mean you stop defending yourself or others if it becomes necessary. It is also absurd for some people to obsessively want to pacing all the time. In order to maintain balance, relate and not relate, they should replace each other at all times, as should the Yin/ Yang elements. If you don't want to empathize with someone else, don't, because otherwise, in time, you'll lose your identity. And I could go on, but... That's enough for today!
From tomorrow we will return to our anchor sheets to "benefit" from new knowledge of the language of the conscious and thus begin to treat them more consciously...
Let's move on with what we discussed yesterday!
Pacing is a technique by which bridges can be built between hearts, it is the process by which one man can harmonize with another emotionally, can resonate with him (emotional resonance) and try to vibrate and feel with him. In esoteric parlance, this process is described with the phrase" to open your heart." A bridge between hearts is quite solid, a successful pacing is technically referred to as a "report". For a therapist or a teacher, it is absolutely necessary to create and maintain such a relationship with the client.
That is because, only through this sense of trust, of protection, of being guided safely and of being respected, can total healing and learning be achieved. If a therapist has managed to build the relationship status with the client and he accepts this way of being led to solving his problems, considering it as safe, we will talk about the situation called "leading" or "direction"/ management. Any therapeutic or pedagogical process, whatever its nature, always leads to pacing, reporting and leading. Without this triumvirate, even the best development and therapy techniques, however well they are learned, cannot become functional. With the help of these three elements everything is possible, even if the techniques used are used imperfectly.
First let's see how pacing doesn't work. Before we start doing exercises together, through which you will learn to build bridges between hearts properly, we need to look more closely at different ways of behavior. Although when viewed superficially, these modes of action seem to make it easier to achieve the state of empathy with others in practice, and if applied without a thorough knowledge and without an adequate inner state it prevents the emergence of an authentic resonance between people.
"Details" that allow the "achieving" of the most authentic resonance are represented by: a. harmonization of the rhythm of breathing, b. adoption of a similar body position, c. adaptation to the way the other communicates through the attention paid to the choice of words, the rhythm of speech, the speed of verbal communication, modulation and height of sounds, d. harmonization of body language with that of the conversation partner, e. expressing similar opinions when it comes to topics , f. choosing clothing, perfume, dishes and drinks according to each other's supposed preferences, g. adopting other equalizing attitudes and h. suggestions regarding properties, schooling, personal abilities.
But the chance of going over some kind of individual patient filter is minimal, at best, all these measures do nothing but irritate him if you're not what you pretend to be. At the same time. They require your attention quite a lot because you are always obliged to control the position of your mask so that your actual behavior does not surface and make the scam visible. It's pretty tiring, isn't it? At the same time, things can be done differently, much simpler, more honest, more pleasant.
All the adaptations described above from a. to d. are automatically made by the subconscious if you really like the other, respect him and are able to feel the same way as him. If your heart is open to each other, it's pointless if you take into account the points from e. to g. to achieve the state of pacing and reporting. Point h. is related to the ability of anyone acting in a particular honest, humane and affective situation, having a kind of natural authority.
But, importantly, pacing (building bridges between hearts) can be learned. This capacity must be enjoyed by therapists, good sellers, managers and seminar managers. Without pacing and reporting, no partnership relationship, friendship and relationship between family members can work. To a certain extent each of us develops this capacity when it grows and when it adapts to its social environment. Most of us learn unconsciously by becoming true masters without making the slightest effort, but many of us need to learn, improve a kind of natural dowry that obviously depends on our qualities of honesty, fairness and more. It is nice and beneficial to maintain cordial relations with other people, separations from certain people will be replaced by strong relationships with others, the daily life becomes sunnier and the blows of destiny that can still touch you, can be overcome more easily. But let's get to work and get acquainted with some of these techniques, of bridges between hearts!
Deck 1 – Self-acceptance.
In the following I will describe a kind of first exercise in the series of many to come. Remember, it is an informative example that requires a little more knowledge to be applied correctly, usefully. So, I advise you now to be aware of him and wait until I describe the techniques at the appropriate time. But let's keep going! For this exercise we have to reserve some time (most authors specify that it would be about half an hour, but it all depends on each of us). You start to relax while, for example, you follow your heart rate for a while. After that, ask your subconscious to draw up a symbol that represents everything you are. Be prepared to accept it, no matter when it happens.
Write your name on an imaginary label that you'll put under the symbol. Now ask your subconscious to apply black spots or another marking to this symbol that stands out and represents the areas of your existence that you have not learned to love. Don't fight everything that's going on. Don't worry if there's too many black spots. First, the subconscious demonstrates to you the confidence it has in you, and secondly, through this exercise, you will allow love to impregnate your aspects, which you have not been able to accept until now. Now he breathes quietly and constantly. At the same time, imagine how, with the air, you draw a new vital energy into the heart area, until you feel saturated with a living, vibrant and warm force.
Ask your subconscious to continue to allow the reception of this force through breathing until you explicitly tell it to stop. Go back mentally to the past, to a time when you felt an overwhelming affective state. Translate with all your senses at the most intense moment of this experience. Extend it temporally so you can enjoy it for a longer time and feel your mood change and your heart open. Now it conveys from the heart a bundle of rays (colored in pink, green and bright white) that symbolize your willingness to love, towards the symbol that represents you.
If you feel fear, pain, anger or any other feeling, say it out loud. "I feel (call the feeling) and I want to respect and love every day that passes this part of my being." Complete the exercise by thanking the subconscious for its help and trust and asking it to work with you on the next occasion, when you need it. Keep breathing abdominally until you feel good and totally relaxed. Take a few more deep breaths, move gently, open your eyes and resume contact with the outside world and touch the things around you. Get up slowly.
Caution, there is some kind of clarification to the exercise described above. It is possible that during the first executions of this exercise, you will feel sick and that feelings are born in you that will make you vulnerable. First, these are the accompanying symptoms of the restructuring caused by this exercise. Later, after the restructuring process is complete, you will be much stronger and more stable and feel better overall. If you have a weak heart, do this exercise only as long as you feel totally good. At the slightest occurrence of any form of discomfort immediately interrupt this step and move on to the next.
If disharmony does not occur after the next breaths, complete the exercise by intensely massaging your little fingers and breathing using the lower abdomen area just below the navel level. Treat your heart to a natural healer (allopathic doctors will destabilize you more with medication because they will chemically compensate for energy deprivation) in which you fully trust until it stabilizes sufficiently to support the intensive exercise.
Unless there are black spots or other obvious markings for areas you don't like, that doesn't mean you totally love your entire being. It is better to assume that, in this way, the subconscious conveys to you how much it is afraid to show you something of it (in addition to the possible situation in which you have not really relaxed). In this case, repeat the exercise in the manner described above, but envelop the entire symbol in the rays of the energy of love. Repeat this exercise daily until you get to mastery (actually, automatism) in achieving it. The more often you do it, the better you will learn to accept yourself, to love yourself, and this inner force will irradiate to an increasing extent. Gradually you will acquire a capacity that you will be able to use with great ease and that will make it very easy for you to pacing with others.
Bridge 2 – Recognize yourself in another.
Focus your attention on your partner and compare his views, his body language and the way he presents himself in relation to yours. Look at the similarities. Through this exercise of perception, with time, will awaken and sympathy for the other. Attention! If the person next door shows you a part of it, which is identical to a part of your personality, which you reject, by doing this exercise you can get scared or become more aggressive. He who wants to love others must initially learn to accept and love himself.
Bridge 3 – Perceiving the good parts of the other.
This exercise is very simple and will give you more choice in structuring relationships. Its effect is based on the finding that a man can distribute his attention within certain limits and that feelings, once provoked, are no longer revocable, but must be experienced immediately or with the passage of time. So you can direct your attention but not your feelings. Use this law, stopping at another, only as long as you need to observe, consciously and clearly, the essential traits that you like about each other. Stay focused on your personality traits that arouse your sympathy, admiration, or other positive resonance, as long as possible, without harming your interests.
And one more thing before we move on. Even if the exercise described above is a first step towards the use of subconscious "power", do not imagine that it is the magic solution. Here appear numerous peculiarities that you will possibly go through, with the passage of time and real access to information. Both information presented by me (by processing my efforts of understanding and those who have gone through and accepted them) and information about you and those around you and your life.
For example, for starters, it is not good to extend your efforts/activity further away from you. It is only after you have reached a certain balance (which I will describe or will feel) that you can move on to the next person. How to identify useful people?!? Custom anchor cards will guide you to who you need to direct your energy to. Don't go any further by approaching more than one person! And, step by step, without forgetting about yourself, go on person by person until you exhaust the lists of custom anchors. But I'm not going to risk giving you advice now... You'll see!
There's still something to talk about active and passive pacing. In principle, two types of pacing are distinguished: the passive one that I described above and is most appropriate for one's own person and isolated person and the active one, which is useful in establishing relationships with groups. This active pacing is useful for those who have to deal with groups such as leaders, actors, teachers, on the occasion of various lectures, seminars or on the occasion of various occasions when many people are present such as birthdays, group parties, etc.
For a start, if possible, at the beginning of the formation of a group or after each longer break, establish a short ritual that has become known as the "energy circle". Participants hold hands, close their eyes and, for a short time, get deeply innerized. The open and affectionate relationship between them will obviously be relieved. If you can't do this, we'll move on and we'll deal with more steps.
Step 1: Initially clarify what feelings, expectations and anxieties may occur in those in the audience towards the frame, theme and your own person.
Step 2: Inform the public about your feelings, expectations and anxieties. You can even, from time to time, make fun of yourself and all these emotions inherent in human nature. If you have often completed the waiting exercises described above you will be able to laugh with all your heart. But if you're not capable of that, don't! This openness is for others an indication that, more than likely, you will accept them with their weaknesses and mistakes. If someone manifests their weaknesses, don't scold them for that reason, but show them that you accept and respect them as a man. This does not mean that you have to accept anything, but that, in the event of a possible controversy, you must greet your partner with respect and willingness to accept the existence of differences.
Step 3: Tell stories and weave them with statements from which it can be inferred that you understand and respect people's expectations, feelings and anxieties, even if your views that you should also express openly are others. It emphasizes common goals and never laughs at anyone, but only at general human behavior. If one of the interlocutors, consciously or unconsciously, reveals the weaknesses of his personality, do not let this situation get lost without a reframing, the aim being that he emphasizes the value of this "mistake" in certain contexts of experience, which many of the members of the group consider "important", or the value of this behavior for the objectives of the group. Don't invent anything, but use reframing only in the context of the real understanding of the meaning and value you want to use as a complementary point of view.
Step 4: Do not allow one of the members to be attacked personally within the group. Instead of these confrontations, it draws the participants' attention, with great tact, to the responsibility we have with regard to our own feelings (separation of positive and negative aspects, objective and subjective ones, or the professional plan from the relational one) by explaining them and helping them to accept each other's feelings, without having to be rationally justified.
Step 5: Thank the group from the heart for being present and for being able to work with them. If this is not yet possible, continue to enhance your ability to understand professionally and to accept the emotional importance of your students.
In the end of today's post I must point out that building and maintaining bridges between hearts is NOT accepting anything. The bridges between hearts are based on reciprocity, on something that cannot override free will to which is added true emotional resonance. If you make the effort to empathize with another and it hits you, literally or figuratively, at a very painful point, you must be able to control yourself and explain to him, without a doubt, that the next action of this kind will have consequences for him.
If you love your own person, you protect yourself from injury and neglect of your demands. Report means emotional resonance, not conflict, not giving up on yourself. Pacing takes place through mutual feelings, but not on the condition that self-esteem is dislocated. Pacing and reporting must eliminate hatred, intolerance, prejudice, envy, jealousy, fear and revenge. But that doesn't mean you stop defending yourself or others if it becomes necessary. It is also absurd for some people to obsessively want to pacing all the time. In order to maintain balance, relate and not relate, they should replace each other at all times, as should the Yin/ Yang elements. If you don't want to empathize with someone else, don't, because otherwise, in time, you'll lose your identity. And I could go on, but... That's enough for today!
From tomorrow we will return to our anchor sheets to "benefit" from new knowledge of the language of the conscious and thus begin to treat them more consciously...
Love,
Gratitude and Understanding (Namaste)!!!
Dorin, Merticaru