STUDY - Technical - New Dacian's Medicine
Human's Life - The Childhood (7)
Translation Draft
Now comes the final
introductory part of the humiliation wound (with his mask, that
of the masochist)...
The masochist is often known for his ability to make others laugh, often laughing at himself, being very expressive when he tells something and almost always finding the means to make everything as funny as possible. He's really taking on the role of making people laugh... But this is just an unconscious way to humiliate oneself.
Thus, no one will be able to guess that the fear of being ashamed is hidden, perhaps, behind its manifestations that provoke laughter. As a reverse of this behavior, the most critical made of him makes him feel humiliated and insignificant, even if he is a specialist in devaluing himself, seeing himself much smaller and more insignificant than he really is (he cannot conceive that others consider him a special and important person).
All this "complements" with the fact that the person suffering from humiliation often tends to blame himself for anything and even to take on the guilt of others (often leaving himself easily convinced to be his fault). But to take the blame and apologize, it never solves anything, because every time such a situation occurs, he will blame himself again forgetting that others cannot make us feel guilty, because culpability comes only from ourselves.
Thus, the masochist will often feel powerless in front of those who love them and who are close to him, especially when he is blamed for something (reaction that draws him against him). Then he gets stuck, not knowing what to say to defend himself, accuses himself and can suffer so much that he leaves the respective place (group) (although, evading, he feels all the more guilty).
One very important thing for the masochist is freedom, that status in which no one has to answer, is not controlled by anyone and does what he wants when he wants. And, in childhood, this is almost impossible especially due to parental control (often very justified). This is often amplified by the typical masochist's behaviour of attributing various obligations rather than others. And when he respects himself and feels that no one wants to put sticks in his head, he becomes enthusiastic, lives his life to the fullest and has no limits. In these moments it falls into excess, into "too much"...
That's why he's very afraid to get into these situations, to feel that he has no limits, because he's convinced that he'll do things he'll be ashamed of. What's more, he thinks that if he takes too much care of himself, he won't be useful to others. And this conviction reactivates humiliation when he refuses to assume the responsibilities of others (typical childhood reaction).
That's why there's so much energy stuck in a masochist's body with everything it attracts. Hence the vicious circle of masochistic fears about freedom. He's convinced he wouldn't know what to do if he was free. Thus, unconsciously manages not to be free, and he is the one who decides this. He believes that by making his own choices he will no longer be controlled by others, but often his decisions bring him the opposite result, that of having even more constraints and obligations.
When he wants to take care of all those he loves, he thinks he is securing his freedom, because he is the one who controls but, in reality, he restricts himself (which makes a masochist to free himself on a certain plane, will restrict him on other levels). Moreover, it creates a lot of situations that force it to do certain things that do not meet their own needs.
Another characteristic of the masochist is to punish himself, believing that he thus punishes the other. What's more, he has the talent to punish himself before anyone else does. It's like he wants to take his first shot and prepare for the other man's blows to do less harm to him.
This situation occurs especially when he is ashamed of something or is afraid of being embarrassed in front of the other. He has such a difficulty in pleasing himself that when he feels good about a particular activity, he usually accuses himself of taking too much advantage of that state, doing his best not to be judged as a profiteer. And the more he accuses himself of being like this, the more his body will take advantage, and he'll gain weight.
The masochist is frequently found in the position of intermediary between two persons, serving as a buffer between them, which causes him to make a solid protector status. So he will make sure that he is a lawyer in all sorts of situations, choosing his "role" in such a way that he is obliged to intervene to remedy everything so that everyone is satisfied.
If not, he will accuse himself of doing nothing and would be ashamed because he thinks he is responsible for the happiness of others. These aspects can be seen on his body, when he gathers too much on his back and shoulders (with his back curved and his shoulders increasingly bent).
Also, from the appearance of the body you can see the moment when a masochist can no longer accumulate certain weights, the skin giving the feeling that it is stretched to the maximum, that it no longer fit in it, that it is tight in its own body. This also determines the importance of external appearance to it. When a masochist dresses in very tight or decolletage clothes, it is a sign that the wound is very painful, returning to wearing clothes to match and to his liking indicating that his wound is in healing status.
Disgust is a feeling often experienced by the masochist. He is disgusted with himself or repudiates others. He often creates situations where he will feel disgusted, and the first reaction will be to reject what repugnant to him.
This way of seeing things greatly affects the communication and collaboration capabilities that he so badly needs. To these fears that prevent him from communicating clearly and expressing his demands is added the fear of hurting the other, of being selfish if he reveals his fears, of being demeaned or humiliated, the fear of the other making him feel nothing, of telling or feeling that he is unworthy etc.
That is why it is very important to remember that what makes us suffer is not what we live, but our reaction to what is happening to us, because of unhealed wounds.
The time has come to mention some of the most "typical masochist" diseases or diseases: back pain and sensations of weight on the shoulders (common, especially because it takes many responsibilities on him... back pain is due to the feelings that it lacks freedom... the lower back is affected especially when it binds to material things, and the top is related to the affective plane), respiratory problems (when suffocated by other people's problems), foot problems such as varicose veins, sprains and fractures (due to fears of immobility), liver problems (because it is the kind that "gets too bitter" for others who , obviously can not control them), sore throat, angina and laryngitis (due to the practices of holding back, not saying many of what he would like to say and, especially, what he wants to ask for), problems with the thyroid gland (which occur the more difficult it is for him to realize his own needs and express his demands) , skin problems like hives and itching (when he can't afford it, because it would be too shameful to want too much to fulfill his pleasures), diabetes - especially hypoglycaemia (when the difficulty of experiencing their pleasures arises, or, to those who do so, who feel guilty or are humiliated by this practice), heart problems (when he does not love too much , quite a lot, the heart having a direct connection with the ability to savor pleasures, with the joy of living)...
It could also be added here that the masochist has a "special" inclination to resort to as many surgeries as possible because of his faith in suffering (which is why it is good for such people to think very carefully before taking the step towards any surgery, looking as far as possible at the real opportunity of it)...
In terms of nutrition, the masochist is often a man of extremes... Either he swallows with great lust, or he only takes small portions, to convince himself that, in fact, he doesn't eat much, so he won't be ashamed. But, anyway, the defining line is that he eats a lot and fat, including moments of bulimia when he feeds surreptitiously.
It all starts with his considerations of rewarding himself with food, which is his way of gratifying. And when you start doing so by other means, you will feel less the need to reward yourself through food. he must not bear grudges for this behaviour, because this certainly saved him so far, helped him to continue to live (according to statistics, 98% of those who keep slimming cure restore the lost weight and even a little extra, the moment they start eating normally and that's because they do not fit the "wounds" they possess - it is as if the physical body is tired of the work done and is much better to accept that overweight and work with the wound of humiliation)...
Let us remember that the main cause of an injury comes from the inability to forgive ourselves for what we do to ourselves or what we do to others and cause suffering! It is not difficult for us to forgive ourselves, because we are usually unaware that we are resentful of ourselves.
And the greater the wound of humiliation, the more you humiliate yourself, demeaning or comparing yourself to others, or you will humiliate other people by being ashamed of them or with them or wanting to do too much for them. Remember, we blame others for what we do ourselves and we don't want to see!!!
Tomorrow and the day after tomorrow comes the turn of the betrayal wound with the "resulting" mask of the dominatrix... Resist, please!!! We're just getting started, and we haven't even passed about 10% of the introductory notions... (Or this exhortation is addressed to me?!?)
The masochist is often known for his ability to make others laugh, often laughing at himself, being very expressive when he tells something and almost always finding the means to make everything as funny as possible. He's really taking on the role of making people laugh... But this is just an unconscious way to humiliate oneself.
Thus, no one will be able to guess that the fear of being ashamed is hidden, perhaps, behind its manifestations that provoke laughter. As a reverse of this behavior, the most critical made of him makes him feel humiliated and insignificant, even if he is a specialist in devaluing himself, seeing himself much smaller and more insignificant than he really is (he cannot conceive that others consider him a special and important person).
All this "complements" with the fact that the person suffering from humiliation often tends to blame himself for anything and even to take on the guilt of others (often leaving himself easily convinced to be his fault). But to take the blame and apologize, it never solves anything, because every time such a situation occurs, he will blame himself again forgetting that others cannot make us feel guilty, because culpability comes only from ourselves.
Thus, the masochist will often feel powerless in front of those who love them and who are close to him, especially when he is blamed for something (reaction that draws him against him). Then he gets stuck, not knowing what to say to defend himself, accuses himself and can suffer so much that he leaves the respective place (group) (although, evading, he feels all the more guilty).
One very important thing for the masochist is freedom, that status in which no one has to answer, is not controlled by anyone and does what he wants when he wants. And, in childhood, this is almost impossible especially due to parental control (often very justified). This is often amplified by the typical masochist's behaviour of attributing various obligations rather than others. And when he respects himself and feels that no one wants to put sticks in his head, he becomes enthusiastic, lives his life to the fullest and has no limits. In these moments it falls into excess, into "too much"...
That's why he's very afraid to get into these situations, to feel that he has no limits, because he's convinced that he'll do things he'll be ashamed of. What's more, he thinks that if he takes too much care of himself, he won't be useful to others. And this conviction reactivates humiliation when he refuses to assume the responsibilities of others (typical childhood reaction).
That's why there's so much energy stuck in a masochist's body with everything it attracts. Hence the vicious circle of masochistic fears about freedom. He's convinced he wouldn't know what to do if he was free. Thus, unconsciously manages not to be free, and he is the one who decides this. He believes that by making his own choices he will no longer be controlled by others, but often his decisions bring him the opposite result, that of having even more constraints and obligations.
When he wants to take care of all those he loves, he thinks he is securing his freedom, because he is the one who controls but, in reality, he restricts himself (which makes a masochist to free himself on a certain plane, will restrict him on other levels). Moreover, it creates a lot of situations that force it to do certain things that do not meet their own needs.
Another characteristic of the masochist is to punish himself, believing that he thus punishes the other. What's more, he has the talent to punish himself before anyone else does. It's like he wants to take his first shot and prepare for the other man's blows to do less harm to him.
This situation occurs especially when he is ashamed of something or is afraid of being embarrassed in front of the other. He has such a difficulty in pleasing himself that when he feels good about a particular activity, he usually accuses himself of taking too much advantage of that state, doing his best not to be judged as a profiteer. And the more he accuses himself of being like this, the more his body will take advantage, and he'll gain weight.
The masochist is frequently found in the position of intermediary between two persons, serving as a buffer between them, which causes him to make a solid protector status. So he will make sure that he is a lawyer in all sorts of situations, choosing his "role" in such a way that he is obliged to intervene to remedy everything so that everyone is satisfied.
If not, he will accuse himself of doing nothing and would be ashamed because he thinks he is responsible for the happiness of others. These aspects can be seen on his body, when he gathers too much on his back and shoulders (with his back curved and his shoulders increasingly bent).
Also, from the appearance of the body you can see the moment when a masochist can no longer accumulate certain weights, the skin giving the feeling that it is stretched to the maximum, that it no longer fit in it, that it is tight in its own body. This also determines the importance of external appearance to it. When a masochist dresses in very tight or decolletage clothes, it is a sign that the wound is very painful, returning to wearing clothes to match and to his liking indicating that his wound is in healing status.
Disgust is a feeling often experienced by the masochist. He is disgusted with himself or repudiates others. He often creates situations where he will feel disgusted, and the first reaction will be to reject what repugnant to him.
This way of seeing things greatly affects the communication and collaboration capabilities that he so badly needs. To these fears that prevent him from communicating clearly and expressing his demands is added the fear of hurting the other, of being selfish if he reveals his fears, of being demeaned or humiliated, the fear of the other making him feel nothing, of telling or feeling that he is unworthy etc.
That is why it is very important to remember that what makes us suffer is not what we live, but our reaction to what is happening to us, because of unhealed wounds.
The time has come to mention some of the most "typical masochist" diseases or diseases: back pain and sensations of weight on the shoulders (common, especially because it takes many responsibilities on him... back pain is due to the feelings that it lacks freedom... the lower back is affected especially when it binds to material things, and the top is related to the affective plane), respiratory problems (when suffocated by other people's problems), foot problems such as varicose veins, sprains and fractures (due to fears of immobility), liver problems (because it is the kind that "gets too bitter" for others who , obviously can not control them), sore throat, angina and laryngitis (due to the practices of holding back, not saying many of what he would like to say and, especially, what he wants to ask for), problems with the thyroid gland (which occur the more difficult it is for him to realize his own needs and express his demands) , skin problems like hives and itching (when he can't afford it, because it would be too shameful to want too much to fulfill his pleasures), diabetes - especially hypoglycaemia (when the difficulty of experiencing their pleasures arises, or, to those who do so, who feel guilty or are humiliated by this practice), heart problems (when he does not love too much , quite a lot, the heart having a direct connection with the ability to savor pleasures, with the joy of living)...
It could also be added here that the masochist has a "special" inclination to resort to as many surgeries as possible because of his faith in suffering (which is why it is good for such people to think very carefully before taking the step towards any surgery, looking as far as possible at the real opportunity of it)...
In terms of nutrition, the masochist is often a man of extremes... Either he swallows with great lust, or he only takes small portions, to convince himself that, in fact, he doesn't eat much, so he won't be ashamed. But, anyway, the defining line is that he eats a lot and fat, including moments of bulimia when he feeds surreptitiously.
It all starts with his considerations of rewarding himself with food, which is his way of gratifying. And when you start doing so by other means, you will feel less the need to reward yourself through food. he must not bear grudges for this behaviour, because this certainly saved him so far, helped him to continue to live (according to statistics, 98% of those who keep slimming cure restore the lost weight and even a little extra, the moment they start eating normally and that's because they do not fit the "wounds" they possess - it is as if the physical body is tired of the work done and is much better to accept that overweight and work with the wound of humiliation)...
Let us remember that the main cause of an injury comes from the inability to forgive ourselves for what we do to ourselves or what we do to others and cause suffering! It is not difficult for us to forgive ourselves, because we are usually unaware that we are resentful of ourselves.
And the greater the wound of humiliation, the more you humiliate yourself, demeaning or comparing yourself to others, or you will humiliate other people by being ashamed of them or with them or wanting to do too much for them. Remember, we blame others for what we do ourselves and we don't want to see!!!
Tomorrow and the day after tomorrow comes the turn of the betrayal wound with the "resulting" mask of the dominatrix... Resist, please!!! We're just getting started, and we haven't even passed about 10% of the introductory notions... (Or this exhortation is addressed to me?!?)
A Sunday full of
relaxation, fun... but also faith, love and gratitude...
Dorin, Merticaru