STUDY - Technical - New Dacian's Medicine
Human's Life - Adolescence (3)
Translation Draft
Today it's the turn of the
addict and the abandonment wound...
From the very beginning it is good to point out that everything I presented to the dependent's childhood remains valid for most of the individual's life (until the wound is closed, without reactivating it) and, most of the time (in case of non-resolution of wounds) until the end of the biological life and the transfer of the soul to a new dimension (existence, reincarnation).
The teenager suffering from abandonment is almost always crushed, and other wounds, to varying degrees of pain (of manifestation). And, all these wounds, now, at the time of an illusory (more or less) freedom, they will manifest themselves perhaps more painfully than at any other type of structure ("inheritance of wounds"). I will, however, try a presentation focusing as much as possible on the addict (the mask of the abandoned one).
The main "problem" of those who suffer from abandonment is that they do not feel sufficiently nourished at the affective level. This is complicated by the relatively unfed-looking body of the addict. If you remember from previous posts, the muscular device has an underdeveloped appearance, giving the impression that it cannot support the right body, as if it needed support (but the body expresses exactly what is happening inside).
The addict is a teenager who is constantly looking for the strongest possible support, as reliable as possible... And for this reason he is the most apt individual to become a victim, having the "gift" to create all kinds of difficulties in life (especially health problems, to draw attention to himself).
This meets the needs of the addict who thinks he never has enough. And when he wants to attract attention by various means, in reality he tries to feel important enough to get help. He thinks that if he can't get the other person's attention, he won't be able to count on that person.
It would be good to remind me that he is a person who dramatizes things a lot, the slightest incident can take on unsuspecting proportions, becoming almost immediately a victim of any situation. Many people around this type of individual will often wonder how so many difficult situations can happen to him (problems actually give him a gift, that of capturing the attention of others and this allows him not to feel abandoned).
The addict often even gets to live events as difficulties. But the more he plays the victim' role, the more important his abandonment wound becomes.
The addict has a life that seems like a continuous sinusoid. For a while he's happy and everything's going well and all of a sudden he feels unhappy and sad. But it all depends, in reality, on those around him, on how the addict is feeling. reach to situations where, whether or not he has difficulty making decisions on his own, he will ask the opinion of others before making a decision (because he needs to feel supported, supported in the decisions he takes).
Loneliness being the greatest fear of the addict will attract often harmful situations for him. Being prepared to do any maneuvers to be loved, not to be left, he is often in the position of the one who accepts more than bearable for things to go well as he thinks or feels. It will often be thought about the addict that he likes suffering when he tolerates certain situations, although he does not recognize this (an example of this are women who live with aggressive alcoholics or those who "benefit" from the treatment of domestic violence).
He is often at odds with himself, because on the one hand he demands a lot of attention, and on the other, he is afraid that if he asks too much, he will end up disturbing the other. As well as when they are in the opposite extreme, the suffering at the idea of leaving one's partner is greater than that of enduring what he is living. Basically, this person's life rests on hope, emotional hope. He can't admit his wound, because by doing so, he risks reliving the suffering that that wound represents.
In his constant quests not to be alone, the addicted teenager will be inclined to become a singer, actor and others who work in the artistic field and appear in front of a wide audience, feeling good in any role of star.
As well as a person who easily merges with others, he ends up feeling responsible for the happiness or unhappiness of others, just as he believes that others are responsible for his own happiness or unhappiness. Such a merged person (psychic person) feels the emotions of others and lets themselves be easily invaded by them but, as a reverse, also trains negative feelings such as those of fear or the like.
As I described in previous posts, the addict is interested in seeking autonomy rather than independence, which is best "felt" in his sex life. Here, he often uses sex to hook up with the other, which is especially visible in women.
When the dependent person feels wanted by the other, he thinks he is thus more important, being the most inclined person towards the pleasures of sex. He often wants other partners, besides the legitimate one, and it can often be observed that those who complain that they lack sex life are those who suffer from the wound of abandonment and who wear an addiction mask.
If an addict happens not to want to make love, he won't say so to his partner. She's going to pretend she's in the mood because she doesn't want to miss an opportunity where she feels wanted. Moreover, if the partner has a lover, the addict will pretend that he does not know of his existence and will tolerate this situation within certain parameters. These people choose to endure such situations rather than be abandoned, even if it is not a voluntary choice, but they are willing to do anything not to lose their partners.
On the other side, it is the dependent person who has the greatest capacity not to see the problems in the couple, preferring to believe that everything is going well for fear of being abandoned. if the partner informs her that she will leave, she will suffer terribly, because, not seeing the problems, she did not expect it (forgetting to help himself, to understand that you alone are over the wounds and/ or problems that you "have").
And, mind you, the most intense emotion experienced by the addict. He feels it in the depths of his being, without understanding it or saying where it comes from. To avoid it, they constantly seek the presence of someone around them, but they can also reach the other extreme, i.e. to withdraw, to leave the person or situation that has attracted sadness or the feeling of loneliness.
He doesn't realize that every time he leaves someone, he abandons himself. And in times of crisis he can even think about suicide. And, also related to this sadness, the dependent person cries easily, especially when talking about his problems or his trials. In her cry, you can see how she accuses others of letting her down just when she was in a lot of trouble (going so far as to accuse the Creator).
Remember, the more we feed a fear, the faster it will materialize! The stronger the abandonment wound in a person, the more situations that will be abandoned by someone else.
Just as important is remember that our ego is doing everything possible so that we don't see our wounds, because on an unconscious level we assigned it this mission. We are so afraid to relive the pain associated with each wound that we hesitate by all means that we have to recognize that if we live in a situation of abandonment, this is because we abandon ourselves.
Those who abandon us appear in our lives to show us how much we abandon ourselves. And what is harder is to forgive ourselves because we don't usually realize that we are resentful of ourselves.
And, spiritual laws say that as long as a person has not experienced in love, he will have to return to earth to relive the same experience, coming back having the same souls but with different roles. All this to give us a chance to definitively solve what we have failed to regulate in our previous lives.
And finally, which I will "promote" repetitively, sadistically, whenever I think it is necessary, I will give you a simple quote from Victor Frankl: "Do not aim for success, for the more you want it and the more you make it a goal, the more you will miss it!
For success, such happiness, cannot be traced. He must follow, and even so, as an unintentional side effect, from that dedication of man to a cause greater than himself or as a byproduct of self-giving to another person.
Happiness or success must come by itself, you must let them occur by not taking care of them. You must listen to what your conscience tells you to do and carry out that thing as best you can. Then you will experience the moments when success or happiness will follow you precisely because you have forgotten to think about them!!!" (either this and long-term, I repeat, in the long term).
From the very beginning it is good to point out that everything I presented to the dependent's childhood remains valid for most of the individual's life (until the wound is closed, without reactivating it) and, most of the time (in case of non-resolution of wounds) until the end of the biological life and the transfer of the soul to a new dimension (existence, reincarnation).
The teenager suffering from abandonment is almost always crushed, and other wounds, to varying degrees of pain (of manifestation). And, all these wounds, now, at the time of an illusory (more or less) freedom, they will manifest themselves perhaps more painfully than at any other type of structure ("inheritance of wounds"). I will, however, try a presentation focusing as much as possible on the addict (the mask of the abandoned one).
The main "problem" of those who suffer from abandonment is that they do not feel sufficiently nourished at the affective level. This is complicated by the relatively unfed-looking body of the addict. If you remember from previous posts, the muscular device has an underdeveloped appearance, giving the impression that it cannot support the right body, as if it needed support (but the body expresses exactly what is happening inside).
The addict is a teenager who is constantly looking for the strongest possible support, as reliable as possible... And for this reason he is the most apt individual to become a victim, having the "gift" to create all kinds of difficulties in life (especially health problems, to draw attention to himself).
This meets the needs of the addict who thinks he never has enough. And when he wants to attract attention by various means, in reality he tries to feel important enough to get help. He thinks that if he can't get the other person's attention, he won't be able to count on that person.
It would be good to remind me that he is a person who dramatizes things a lot, the slightest incident can take on unsuspecting proportions, becoming almost immediately a victim of any situation. Many people around this type of individual will often wonder how so many difficult situations can happen to him (problems actually give him a gift, that of capturing the attention of others and this allows him not to feel abandoned).
The addict often even gets to live events as difficulties. But the more he plays the victim' role, the more important his abandonment wound becomes.
The addict has a life that seems like a continuous sinusoid. For a while he's happy and everything's going well and all of a sudden he feels unhappy and sad. But it all depends, in reality, on those around him, on how the addict is feeling. reach to situations where, whether or not he has difficulty making decisions on his own, he will ask the opinion of others before making a decision (because he needs to feel supported, supported in the decisions he takes).
Loneliness being the greatest fear of the addict will attract often harmful situations for him. Being prepared to do any maneuvers to be loved, not to be left, he is often in the position of the one who accepts more than bearable for things to go well as he thinks or feels. It will often be thought about the addict that he likes suffering when he tolerates certain situations, although he does not recognize this (an example of this are women who live with aggressive alcoholics or those who "benefit" from the treatment of domestic violence).
He is often at odds with himself, because on the one hand he demands a lot of attention, and on the other, he is afraid that if he asks too much, he will end up disturbing the other. As well as when they are in the opposite extreme, the suffering at the idea of leaving one's partner is greater than that of enduring what he is living. Basically, this person's life rests on hope, emotional hope. He can't admit his wound, because by doing so, he risks reliving the suffering that that wound represents.
In his constant quests not to be alone, the addicted teenager will be inclined to become a singer, actor and others who work in the artistic field and appear in front of a wide audience, feeling good in any role of star.
As well as a person who easily merges with others, he ends up feeling responsible for the happiness or unhappiness of others, just as he believes that others are responsible for his own happiness or unhappiness. Such a merged person (psychic person) feels the emotions of others and lets themselves be easily invaded by them but, as a reverse, also trains negative feelings such as those of fear or the like.
As I described in previous posts, the addict is interested in seeking autonomy rather than independence, which is best "felt" in his sex life. Here, he often uses sex to hook up with the other, which is especially visible in women.
When the dependent person feels wanted by the other, he thinks he is thus more important, being the most inclined person towards the pleasures of sex. He often wants other partners, besides the legitimate one, and it can often be observed that those who complain that they lack sex life are those who suffer from the wound of abandonment and who wear an addiction mask.
If an addict happens not to want to make love, he won't say so to his partner. She's going to pretend she's in the mood because she doesn't want to miss an opportunity where she feels wanted. Moreover, if the partner has a lover, the addict will pretend that he does not know of his existence and will tolerate this situation within certain parameters. These people choose to endure such situations rather than be abandoned, even if it is not a voluntary choice, but they are willing to do anything not to lose their partners.
On the other side, it is the dependent person who has the greatest capacity not to see the problems in the couple, preferring to believe that everything is going well for fear of being abandoned. if the partner informs her that she will leave, she will suffer terribly, because, not seeing the problems, she did not expect it (forgetting to help himself, to understand that you alone are over the wounds and/ or problems that you "have").
And, mind you, the most intense emotion experienced by the addict. He feels it in the depths of his being, without understanding it or saying where it comes from. To avoid it, they constantly seek the presence of someone around them, but they can also reach the other extreme, i.e. to withdraw, to leave the person or situation that has attracted sadness or the feeling of loneliness.
He doesn't realize that every time he leaves someone, he abandons himself. And in times of crisis he can even think about suicide. And, also related to this sadness, the dependent person cries easily, especially when talking about his problems or his trials. In her cry, you can see how she accuses others of letting her down just when she was in a lot of trouble (going so far as to accuse the Creator).
Remember, the more we feed a fear, the faster it will materialize! The stronger the abandonment wound in a person, the more situations that will be abandoned by someone else.
Just as important is remember that our ego is doing everything possible so that we don't see our wounds, because on an unconscious level we assigned it this mission. We are so afraid to relive the pain associated with each wound that we hesitate by all means that we have to recognize that if we live in a situation of abandonment, this is because we abandon ourselves.
Those who abandon us appear in our lives to show us how much we abandon ourselves. And what is harder is to forgive ourselves because we don't usually realize that we are resentful of ourselves.
And, spiritual laws say that as long as a person has not experienced in love, he will have to return to earth to relive the same experience, coming back having the same souls but with different roles. All this to give us a chance to definitively solve what we have failed to regulate in our previous lives.
And finally, which I will "promote" repetitively, sadistically, whenever I think it is necessary, I will give you a simple quote from Victor Frankl: "Do not aim for success, for the more you want it and the more you make it a goal, the more you will miss it!
For success, such happiness, cannot be traced. He must follow, and even so, as an unintentional side effect, from that dedication of man to a cause greater than himself or as a byproduct of self-giving to another person.
Happiness or success must come by itself, you must let them occur by not taking care of them. You must listen to what your conscience tells you to do and carry out that thing as best you can. Then you will experience the moments when success or happiness will follow you precisely because you have forgotten to think about them!!!" (either this and long-term, I repeat, in the long term).
Week full of the thaw of
your inner state!
Dorin, Merticaru