STUDY - Technical - New Dacian's Medicine
Human's Life - Adolescence (5)
Translation Draft
Today it is the turn of
the dominatrix and the wound of treason...
From the very beginning it is good to point out that everything I presented at the childhood of the dominatrix remains valid for the greatest of the life of the individual (until the closure of the wound, without reactivating it) and, most of the time (in the case of non-resolution of wounds) until the end of the biological life and the transfer of the soul into a new dimension (existence, reincarnation).
The domineering teenager is easily recognizable. When, at first glance, the young man exudes force in the upper body, displaying shoulders with wide, well-developed biceps, bulging chests and wearing a t-shirt molded to highlight his muscles, we will know that he has an important treason wound.
In young age, this domineering force is rather concentrated in the hips, buttocks, womb and thighs (reversal cases are relatively rarer). So the dominators are people who occupy their rightful place and are very physical, emanating a posture that can be easily described by: "Hey, look at me!" ...
The gaze of people of the domineering type is intense, seductive and when such a person looks at someone, he has the talent to make him feel special, important. I also see things very quickly, and the intensity of their eyes helps them quickly see the whole of what's going on around them.
Moreover, the gaze is also the dominatrix's first weapon, using his eyes a lot to keep the other at bay, when he is defensive, or to help and scrutinize the other in an intimidating way, when he is offensive (but all this to protect himself and not show his weakness, vulnerability or helplessness).
As I said in my childhood posts, in most cases, the Oedipal complex that underlies the betrayal wound is very poorly lived in most cases. This assumes that the dominant attachment to the opposite-sex parent is far too great, which will affect their affective and sexual relationships, constantly tending to compare their partner to the opposite-sex parent, or they will have countless expectations on their partner's part of what they have not received from the opposite-sex parent.
Even at the time of intercourse, these people have difficulty relaxing completely, being restrained because they are afraid to abandon the other. to all this competes the instability of the dominatrix, he being the one who has the most oscillations of disposition. at one time it can be full of love and attention, and the next second it can get angry because of the slightest impediment or incident.
So those around him don't know how to behave in his presence, toward his gestures or actions, frequently living this kind of attitude as a betrayal. Perhaps it's all because the dominatrix is characteristic of his lack of trust in people (or the fact that he doesn't trust people easily).
That's why he's more confident in someone when there's no sexual interest. Being very seductive, especially when the wound of betrayal is very deep, prefers those of the opposite sex to be friends rather than lovers, feeling very comfortable with friends.
Or, this, this behavior often causes confusion and attracts undeserved feelings. But, what is good for the dominatrix, he usually uses seduction to manipulate others, and this succeeds very well, being a true specialist in finding various means of seduction (and not only sexually).
But only when in his presence there is another seducer, as it becomes almost immediately cautious. And if someone tries to seduce him, he won't be seduced.
His first problems arise from the fact that he does not like to delay the course of events and does not tolerate people who attract these "deviations". This difficulty is especially experienced with people of the opposite sex, with whom they get angry more easily than with the others.
And as it is demanding, it often happens not to give themselves the time necessary to perform something and not to give this time to others. In addition, considering himself a very hard-working and responsible person, he has difficulty with laziness, especially if he is a person of the opposite sex, on whom he has clear manifestations of nervousness.
In the level of the behavior and inner attitudes of the dominatrix, force is a characteristic common to all people who have a wound of betrayal, it is important for them to approach this force, especially for their courage. So they are very demanding of themselves and want to demonstrate to others what they are capable of.
This is not really beneficial for the "beginner of life" the teenager especially as he will live any act of cowardice, lack of courage, involvement, as a betrayal. They will reproach themselves enormously if they give up a gesture, an action, a project, if they have not had the courage to go all the way, which often leads them to reckless acts.
If we remember that they find it very difficult to accept the cowardice of others, you will understand where so much danger. That's why he has a very strong personality, asserting his beliefs with force, expecting others to join his beliefs. He's got a lot of talent and he's doing his job fast, he's quickly forming an opinion about someone or a situation and he's convinced he's right and he's just as fast in his actions.
He understands or wants to understand very quickly and has difficulty when someone takes too long to describe something. Besides, he has trouble having the patience with those who are slower, making great efforts to tolerate them. The same goes for him.
When things don't move fast enough for his taste and, especially, when an unexpected thing bothers him, he gets very angry very easily, especially because he likes to be first in any competition he is included (willingly or needily). That's why he has a lot of work to do in terms of his patience and tolerance, especially when it comes to problematic situations in which he solves everything in his own way and according to the expectations of others.
But there's something else... The dominatrix's ego feels frustrated immediately when someone criticizes him in what he does because he doesn't like to be watched, especially by another dominatrix. He also has a lot of difficulties with authoritarian people, because he feels that they want to control him, and that's against the background of the fact that he doesn't realize how many times he gives orders and make quick decisions on behalf of others.
It is the dominatrix who has the most expectations of others, because he likes to foresee everything and control. These expectations are aimed at verifying how they do what they have to do, whether they are doing it right or not, and that they can verify the confidence they can have in them.
Perhaps and that's why re tend to "predict" the future, in an attempt to anticipate everything you can about the future (against the background of a very active mind). Moreover, he is very skilful in guessing the expectations of others, frequently coming to say or do something according to each other's expectations, without necessarily having the intention of doing what he said.
The major inconveniences of this attitude are that he wants everything to happen as he intended and is full of expectations for the future. Therefore, it makes it so that it is not in confrontational situations where it would not be in control and, when it is with people it considers fast and powerful, it will withdraw out of fear of not being able to cope with them.
These attitudes will prevent him from living his present moment to the fullest, being more concerned about the future. He is often quick to see what will happen and whether it will happen as he predicted, instead of taking advantage of the present moment.
Given that they find it very difficult to accept any form of betrayal coming from themselves or others, the dominators are doing everything in their power to be responsible, powerful, special and important people. Thus, the dominatrix satisfies his ego who does not want to see how many times a week he betrays himself or someone else.
And in general, he is unaware of this, because to betray is so unacceptable to him that he doesn't want to admit that he can do something like this. If he is aware that he betrayed someone, that he did not keep a promise, etc., he will find all sorts of excuses and can often resort to lying to get out of that situation.
Moreover, he very quickly regards others as hypocrites because of his lack of trust, and on the contrary, through his manipulative behavior, we could very often consider him a hypocrite. For example, when things don't go his way, this annoys him very much and he will start talking behind the back of the "target" person.
This is quite contrasting in relation to the fact that the dominatrix is constantly fighting for a good reputation. When someone says or does something that might affect their good reputation, they feel insulted and get angry because they live that situation as a grave betrayal.
He'll even end up lying to "fix" the situation he created, which brings other reputational complications. This exacerbated reputational consideration is so strong that, more often than not, it will be "preferred" more than his own happiness or the "value" of those in his life.
Directly in this "struggle for reputation," the dominatrix is afraid of commitment, and this fear comes from an even greater fear, the fear of giving up a commitment. He believes that not keeping his promise and giving up a commitment are synonymous with loss of reputation and, above all, betrayal.
In conclusion, he believes he is obliged to keep his word and, if he makes too many commitments, he will feel restrained. And rather than come out of a commitment, he'd rather not commit at all.
Remember, the more we feed a fear, the faster it will materialize! The stronger the wound of treason in a person, the more situations that will attract that person will be betrayed by someone else.
Just as important is remember that our ego is doing everything possible so that we don't see our wounds, because on an unconscious level we assigned it this mission. We are so afraid to relive the pain associated with each wound that we hesitate by all means that we have to recognize that if we live in a situation of betrayal, this is because we betray ourselves.
Those who betray us appear in our lives to show us how much we betray ourselves. And what is harder is to forgive ourselves because we don't usually realize that we are resentful of ourselves.
And, spiritual laws say that as long as a person has not experienced in love, he will have to return to earth to relive the same experience, coming back having the same souls but with different roles. All this to give us a chance to definitively solve what we have failed to regulate in our previous lives.
And finally, which I will "promote" repetitively, sadistically, whenever I think it is necessary, I will give you a simple quote from Victor Frankl: "Do not aim for success, for the more you want it and the more you make it a goal, the more you will miss it! For success, such happiness, cannot be traced.
He must follow, and even so, as an unintentional side effect, from that dedication of man to a cause greater than himself or as a byproduct of self-giving to another person.
Happiness or success must come by itself, you must let them occur by not taking care of them. You must listen to what your conscience tells you to do and carry out that thing as best you can. Then you will experience the moments when success or happiness will follow you precisely because you have forgotten to think about them!!!" (either this and long-term, I repeat, in the long term).
From the very beginning it is good to point out that everything I presented at the childhood of the dominatrix remains valid for the greatest of the life of the individual (until the closure of the wound, without reactivating it) and, most of the time (in the case of non-resolution of wounds) until the end of the biological life and the transfer of the soul into a new dimension (existence, reincarnation).
The domineering teenager is easily recognizable. When, at first glance, the young man exudes force in the upper body, displaying shoulders with wide, well-developed biceps, bulging chests and wearing a t-shirt molded to highlight his muscles, we will know that he has an important treason wound.
In young age, this domineering force is rather concentrated in the hips, buttocks, womb and thighs (reversal cases are relatively rarer). So the dominators are people who occupy their rightful place and are very physical, emanating a posture that can be easily described by: "Hey, look at me!" ...
The gaze of people of the domineering type is intense, seductive and when such a person looks at someone, he has the talent to make him feel special, important. I also see things very quickly, and the intensity of their eyes helps them quickly see the whole of what's going on around them.
Moreover, the gaze is also the dominatrix's first weapon, using his eyes a lot to keep the other at bay, when he is defensive, or to help and scrutinize the other in an intimidating way, when he is offensive (but all this to protect himself and not show his weakness, vulnerability or helplessness).
As I said in my childhood posts, in most cases, the Oedipal complex that underlies the betrayal wound is very poorly lived in most cases. This assumes that the dominant attachment to the opposite-sex parent is far too great, which will affect their affective and sexual relationships, constantly tending to compare their partner to the opposite-sex parent, or they will have countless expectations on their partner's part of what they have not received from the opposite-sex parent.
Even at the time of intercourse, these people have difficulty relaxing completely, being restrained because they are afraid to abandon the other. to all this competes the instability of the dominatrix, he being the one who has the most oscillations of disposition. at one time it can be full of love and attention, and the next second it can get angry because of the slightest impediment or incident.
So those around him don't know how to behave in his presence, toward his gestures or actions, frequently living this kind of attitude as a betrayal. Perhaps it's all because the dominatrix is characteristic of his lack of trust in people (or the fact that he doesn't trust people easily).
That's why he's more confident in someone when there's no sexual interest. Being very seductive, especially when the wound of betrayal is very deep, prefers those of the opposite sex to be friends rather than lovers, feeling very comfortable with friends.
Or, this, this behavior often causes confusion and attracts undeserved feelings. But, what is good for the dominatrix, he usually uses seduction to manipulate others, and this succeeds very well, being a true specialist in finding various means of seduction (and not only sexually).
But only when in his presence there is another seducer, as it becomes almost immediately cautious. And if someone tries to seduce him, he won't be seduced.
His first problems arise from the fact that he does not like to delay the course of events and does not tolerate people who attract these "deviations". This difficulty is especially experienced with people of the opposite sex, with whom they get angry more easily than with the others.
And as it is demanding, it often happens not to give themselves the time necessary to perform something and not to give this time to others. In addition, considering himself a very hard-working and responsible person, he has difficulty with laziness, especially if he is a person of the opposite sex, on whom he has clear manifestations of nervousness.
In the level of the behavior and inner attitudes of the dominatrix, force is a characteristic common to all people who have a wound of betrayal, it is important for them to approach this force, especially for their courage. So they are very demanding of themselves and want to demonstrate to others what they are capable of.
This is not really beneficial for the "beginner of life" the teenager especially as he will live any act of cowardice, lack of courage, involvement, as a betrayal. They will reproach themselves enormously if they give up a gesture, an action, a project, if they have not had the courage to go all the way, which often leads them to reckless acts.
If we remember that they find it very difficult to accept the cowardice of others, you will understand where so much danger. That's why he has a very strong personality, asserting his beliefs with force, expecting others to join his beliefs. He's got a lot of talent and he's doing his job fast, he's quickly forming an opinion about someone or a situation and he's convinced he's right and he's just as fast in his actions.
He understands or wants to understand very quickly and has difficulty when someone takes too long to describe something. Besides, he has trouble having the patience with those who are slower, making great efforts to tolerate them. The same goes for him.
When things don't move fast enough for his taste and, especially, when an unexpected thing bothers him, he gets very angry very easily, especially because he likes to be first in any competition he is included (willingly or needily). That's why he has a lot of work to do in terms of his patience and tolerance, especially when it comes to problematic situations in which he solves everything in his own way and according to the expectations of others.
But there's something else... The dominatrix's ego feels frustrated immediately when someone criticizes him in what he does because he doesn't like to be watched, especially by another dominatrix. He also has a lot of difficulties with authoritarian people, because he feels that they want to control him, and that's against the background of the fact that he doesn't realize how many times he gives orders and make quick decisions on behalf of others.
It is the dominatrix who has the most expectations of others, because he likes to foresee everything and control. These expectations are aimed at verifying how they do what they have to do, whether they are doing it right or not, and that they can verify the confidence they can have in them.
Perhaps and that's why re tend to "predict" the future, in an attempt to anticipate everything you can about the future (against the background of a very active mind). Moreover, he is very skilful in guessing the expectations of others, frequently coming to say or do something according to each other's expectations, without necessarily having the intention of doing what he said.
The major inconveniences of this attitude are that he wants everything to happen as he intended and is full of expectations for the future. Therefore, it makes it so that it is not in confrontational situations where it would not be in control and, when it is with people it considers fast and powerful, it will withdraw out of fear of not being able to cope with them.
These attitudes will prevent him from living his present moment to the fullest, being more concerned about the future. He is often quick to see what will happen and whether it will happen as he predicted, instead of taking advantage of the present moment.
Given that they find it very difficult to accept any form of betrayal coming from themselves or others, the dominators are doing everything in their power to be responsible, powerful, special and important people. Thus, the dominatrix satisfies his ego who does not want to see how many times a week he betrays himself or someone else.
And in general, he is unaware of this, because to betray is so unacceptable to him that he doesn't want to admit that he can do something like this. If he is aware that he betrayed someone, that he did not keep a promise, etc., he will find all sorts of excuses and can often resort to lying to get out of that situation.
Moreover, he very quickly regards others as hypocrites because of his lack of trust, and on the contrary, through his manipulative behavior, we could very often consider him a hypocrite. For example, when things don't go his way, this annoys him very much and he will start talking behind the back of the "target" person.
This is quite contrasting in relation to the fact that the dominatrix is constantly fighting for a good reputation. When someone says or does something that might affect their good reputation, they feel insulted and get angry because they live that situation as a grave betrayal.
He'll even end up lying to "fix" the situation he created, which brings other reputational complications. This exacerbated reputational consideration is so strong that, more often than not, it will be "preferred" more than his own happiness or the "value" of those in his life.
Directly in this "struggle for reputation," the dominatrix is afraid of commitment, and this fear comes from an even greater fear, the fear of giving up a commitment. He believes that not keeping his promise and giving up a commitment are synonymous with loss of reputation and, above all, betrayal.
In conclusion, he believes he is obliged to keep his word and, if he makes too many commitments, he will feel restrained. And rather than come out of a commitment, he'd rather not commit at all.
Remember, the more we feed a fear, the faster it will materialize! The stronger the wound of treason in a person, the more situations that will attract that person will be betrayed by someone else.
Just as important is remember that our ego is doing everything possible so that we don't see our wounds, because on an unconscious level we assigned it this mission. We are so afraid to relive the pain associated with each wound that we hesitate by all means that we have to recognize that if we live in a situation of betrayal, this is because we betray ourselves.
Those who betray us appear in our lives to show us how much we betray ourselves. And what is harder is to forgive ourselves because we don't usually realize that we are resentful of ourselves.
And, spiritual laws say that as long as a person has not experienced in love, he will have to return to earth to relive the same experience, coming back having the same souls but with different roles. All this to give us a chance to definitively solve what we have failed to regulate in our previous lives.
And finally, which I will "promote" repetitively, sadistically, whenever I think it is necessary, I will give you a simple quote from Victor Frankl: "Do not aim for success, for the more you want it and the more you make it a goal, the more you will miss it! For success, such happiness, cannot be traced.
He must follow, and even so, as an unintentional side effect, from that dedication of man to a cause greater than himself or as a byproduct of self-giving to another person.
Happiness or success must come by itself, you must let them occur by not taking care of them. You must listen to what your conscience tells you to do and carry out that thing as best you can. Then you will experience the moments when success or happiness will follow you precisely because you have forgotten to think about them!!!" (either this and long-term, I repeat, in the long term).
Wellness, love and
gratitude!
Dorin, Merticaru